Redeeming December


Three years ago in December, I went to my OB for a normal check up.  I was just about 14 weeks pregnant with our third baby, and excited to hear that sweet little heartbeat once again.  Out came the doppler to verify all was well with the little one.  After several minutes of silence, the nurse reassured me everything was probably fine, and quickly left to get the doctor.  They wheeled in the ultrasound machine and a few moments later I was told my baby didn’t have a heartbeat. Those words repeated in my mind a thousand times over the next few days and weeks. And then, I began to experience grief in a way that was new and very foreign to me.

Then fast forward two years later to last December.  After trying for another baby for some time, we were expecting again.  It felt like an answer to prayer.  December came, another doctor appointment arrives, and once again: no heartbeat.  We were 10 weeks along, and I was heartbroken.

Last year, only a couple of weeks later, I remember attending a Christmas Eve service and weeping through the entire thing.  I was in the throws of grief, but I also had a whole new perspective on Christmas.  It was not just about Jesus’ birth, but also, his death.  God sent His Son here with the sole purpose of him dying – something I could not comprehend after losing two of my own. Christmas is a story of love and sacrifice woven perfectly together with grace. That night, I gained a greater understanding of what God had done for me; and in all my pain, I was grateful.

During those experiences, God sent people into our lives to love us and pray for us.  He used my pain and grief to open my eyes and break down my walls.  I’m so grateful for how God takes ugly things and makes them beautiful.  I would never volunteer to go through that again, but in God’s goodness He allowed it, and I’m thankful for how He used it.

This year, on December 2nd, God gave us a very special gift: a baby boy.  At first, I was hoping to deliver around Thanksgiving, but I think God’s timing for his birth was profoundly perfect.  God has redeemed our December.

I don’t always understand the pain that we experience. There were many times when I felt confusion and anger during those dark months.  What I do know is that I’m different because of it.

Even if God never blessed us with another child, He still would have been good.  But, today I am praising him for this sweet baby boy, and for giving me His Son Jesus.

Merry Christmas.


Psalm 30:11-12

“You have turned for me my mourning into dancing;
you have loosed my sackcloth and clothed me with gladness,
that my glory may sing your praise and not be silent.
O Lord my God, I will give thanks to you forever!”


  1. Anne says:

    This is beautiful. He is Jehovah-Go’el (Lord My Redeemer) even when things don’t go our way. Thanks for sharing your story. Your baby boy was born on my birthday and though there is no importance to that 🙂 I wanted to tell you. Blessings this Christmas.

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